<div style="font-size:10pt;font-family:arial,helvetica,sans-serif;color:black;"><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman""><o:p> </o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">This is a powerful piece.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> 
</span><o:p></o:p></span></u></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">However, there is a possible misunderstanding. <o:p></o:p></span></u></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">At some point, the <span style="mso-spacerun:yes">  </span>one who is being comforted reverses roles
with the comforter. <o:p></o:p></span></u></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">This is an interesting twist,<o:p></o:p></span></u></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">because<span style="mso-spacerun:yes">  </span>the berieved,
has the same issues of communicating<span style="mso-spacerun:yes">  </span>her
understanding <o:p></o:p></span></u></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">of the second party’s issues in communicating<span style="mso-spacerun:yes">  </span>her grief. <o:p></o:p></span></u></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">If I’m not mistaken, <o:p></o:p></span></u></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">the same rules apply expressing for how do you communicate
empathy. <o:p></o:p></span></u></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">Grief talk is usually<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> 
</span>laid out in empty words. <o:p></o:p></span></u></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">The way to handle the problem is simply to listen<span style="mso-spacerun:yes">  </span>and be non-judgemental<span style="mso-spacerun:yes">  </span><o:p></o:p></span></u></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">and resist the use of platitudes. <o:p></o:p></span></u></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman""><o:p> </o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">Grieftalk<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman""><o:p> </o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman""><o:p> </o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">I'm sorry,<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">so sorry for your loss.<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">I feel the pain cavern<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">behind your words, tears--<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">understanding I can't change it,<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman""><o:p> </o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">I think you meant it rather than i.<o:p></o:p></span></u></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman""><o:p><span style="text-decoration:none"> </span></o:p></span></u></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">fix i, so,<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman""><o:p> </o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">There is a confusion here. It sounds like you are trying to
comfort<span style="mso-spacerun:yes">  </span>the one who is<span style="mso-spacerun:yes">  </span>talking about your loss. There statements are
true and valid. They realy do feel yur<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> 
</span>pain. You can’t change that feeling of empathy that they have, so you
listen, as though you are not the berieved one.<o:p></o:p></span></u></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman""><span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></u></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">I will listen--<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">a witness to your shattered heart--knowing platitudes don't
comfort,<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">assumptions and presumptions are<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">empty walls, pity only sighs.<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">You know there is little you can do about their feelings, so
you just listen. The things you can say are empty.<o:p></o:p></span></u></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">Yes, I will listen,<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">not interjecting, to each word, feeling and sob,<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">knowing so well the annihilation of loss.<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">You know how bad the pain of loss is, so you try not to do
or say <span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>anything to<span style="mso-spacerun:yes">  </span>cheapen their experience.<o:p></o:p></span></u></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman""><o:p> </o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">Valerie Moreno<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">Standing in the lonely light of the silver moon<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">looking over maps of memories for the road...<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">-Michael Nesmith<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">1942-2021<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"">____<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal"><a href="mailto:spiritwind@pmpmail.com"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";color:blue">spiritwind@pmpmail.com</span></a><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman""><o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p><br data-mce-bogus="1"></div>