<div style="font-size:10pt;font-family:arial,helvetica,sans-serif;color:black;"><div style="font-family:arial,helvetica,sans-serif;font-size:10pt;color:black;"><br><br><br>-----Original Message-----<br>From: tuchyner5@aol.com<br>To: group1@bluegrasspals.com <group1@bluegrasspals.com><br>Sent: Fri, Jan 28, 2022 9:20 am<br>Subject: Leonard's comments on Val's submission<br><br></div><div id="yiv7619931864"><div style="font-size:10pt;font-family:arial, helvetica, sans-serif;color:black;"><p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;"> </span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">This is a powerful piece.<span style="">
</span></span></u></b></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">However, there is a possible misunderstanding. </span></u></b></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">At some point, the <span style=""> </span>one who is being comforted reverses roles
with the comforter. </span></u></b></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">This is an interesting twist,</span></u></b></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">because<span style=""> </span>the berieved,
has the same issues of communicating<span style=""> </span>her
understanding </span></u></b></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">of the second party’s issues in communicating<span style=""> </span>her grief. </span></u></b></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">If I’m not mistaken, </span></u></b></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">the same rules apply expressing for how do you communicate
empathy. </span></u></b></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">Grief talk is usually<span style="">
</span>laid out in empty words. </span></u></b></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">The way to handle the problem is simply to listen<span style=""> </span>and be non-judgemental<span style=""> </span></span></u></b></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">and resist the use of platitudes. </span></u></b></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;"> </span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">Grieftalk</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;"> </span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;"> </span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">I'm sorry,</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">so sorry for your loss.</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">I feel the pain cavern</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">behind your words, tears--</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">understanding I can't change it,</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;"> </span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">I think you meant it rather than i.</span></u></b></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;"><span style="text-decoration:none;"> </span></span></u></b></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">fix i, so,</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;"> </span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">There is a confusion here. It sounds like you are trying to
comfort<span style=""> </span>the one who is<span style=""> </span>talking about your loss. There statements are
true and valid. They realy do feel yur<span style="">
</span>pain. You can’t change that feeling of empathy that they have, so you
listen, as though you are not the berieved one.</span></u></b></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;"><span style=""> </span></span></u></b></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">I will listen--</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">a witness to your shattered heart--knowing platitudes don't
comfort,</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">assumptions and presumptions are</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">empty walls, pity only sighs.</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">You know there is little you can do about their feelings, so
you just listen. The things you can say are empty.</span></u></b></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">Yes, I will listen,</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">not interjecting, to each word, feeling and sob,</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">knowing so well the annihilation of loss.</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><b><u><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">You know how bad the pain of loss is, so you try not to do
or say <span style=""> </span>anything to<span style=""> </span>cheapen their experience.</span></u></b></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;"> </span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">Valerie Moreno</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">Standing in the lonely light of the silver moon</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">looking over maps of memories for the road...</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">-Michael Nesmith</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">1942-2021</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom:0in;line-height:normal;" class="yiv7619931864MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:12.0pt;font-family:sans-serif;">____</span></p>
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